We live in a society where it is traditional for a man to make a proposal to the girl.Asks her if she is ready to marry him.A girl, with the consent of her family, accepts his proposal.Then they both get married.A girl is then exposed to a whole new life which is the exact opposite of the life she has in her dreams.A life full of responsibilities where a man leaves his wife to worry about things that do not even matter for the marriage to go well but just satisfies his ego.
A man leaves his wife to look after his kids.Leave her to look after his house.Leave her to attend his family members in the best possible manner.Leave her to worry about what to cook.Leave her to iron his clothes without any creases.Leave her to be up early in the morning so that he do not get late for office.Leave her to worry about everything.If a woman does all of this, she will then be titled as ‘The Perfect Wife’.
Why do people expect this sort of hardwork and patience from women only.Why do you not understand that she is also, ‘A Human’, a human who breathes the same way the man does, a human who gets tired the same way the man becomes, a human who holds equal rights and respect the man have.It is something people need to understand.
A ‘wifey material’ does not have anything to do with cooking skills, domesticated attributes or physical appearance.If a woman does have that, it would be a plus.But if a woman respects her husband’s struggles, encourages him, and appreciates his whole being no matter how difficult he his or would be…Then that’s a ‘wifey material’.
But still, if you expect a woman to take care of the house in the best possible way or if a husband does not afford to have any domestic help at home for his wife, then she must have a contentment, self-satisfaction and constant support and respect from her husband.A wife is a backbone of her family, if she’s not happy, the whole house is in chaos, so it’s very important for a man to make his wife realises her importance and to make her realise that she holds equal rights and respect as he has in their bond called ‘Marriage’.
When marriages does not work for some reason or the other, husbands often blame their wives for that and end their relationship.Because he knows that it’s a male chauvinist society, people will only blame a wife for a loss but not him.According to the Qur’an, a man may have up to four legal wives at any one time. The husband is required to treat all wives equally. If a man fears that he will not be able to meet these conditions then he is not allowed more than one wife.But what a man does is, he use this to his benefit and threatens his wife to behave in the best possible way or he would end their relationship…This is the harsh reality of our society.The ‘male-dominated’ society.
We, as women feel so bad and insecure to have this kind of treatment.We can make a change-a change for the goodness and betterment for all the women who are victims of this injustice.All we need is a bit of confidence and determination and this will sooner or later will make a positive change in our society.